There is still some sort of stigma or taboo associated with online dating. Most people still think of sleazy perverts looking for sex are the only people who try to meet people online. But an emerging trend is that people are fostering and maintaining healthy relationships with people they have met online, and some of those relationships are even leading towards successful marriages. I myself have read about successful relationships online, but I don't know anyone personally who has had a relationship go from their yahoo messenger to the alter. I've met a few guys online, had drinks with a few, maybe even dinner, but I haven't found love. But I'm not closed off from it either, if I met my prince charming online... I would be okay with it. It's no different then meeting him in a bar, in a Barnes and Noble, or out in the park.
So maybe the taboo comes from how much deception a person could poor into their online persona. When you're just a person on the other side of the messenger, you can be whoever you want to be. The 40 year old balding married man, can post his picture from when he was a hot college basketball stud 20 years ago, and the recipient could be none the wiser. I've read lots of horror stories about young women being deceived into loving an individual who doesn't really even exist. That could be where the stigma comes from.
On the flip side of that coin, I figure I'm a well adjusted individual, who is somewhat attractive (feel free to correct me and tell me I'm gorgeous), smart, educated well, sweet, caring, fun, and not criminally insane, and I've pondered and lurked to see whats out there in the world of online dating, so couldn't the people I'm looking at be the same.
So maybe the taboo comes from how much deception a person could poor into their online persona. When you're just a person on the other side of the messenger, you can be whoever you want to be. The 40 year old balding married man, can post his picture from when he was a hot college basketball stud 20 years ago, and the recipient could be none the wiser. I've read lots of horror stories about young women being deceived into loving an individual who doesn't really even exist. That could be where the stigma comes from.
On the flip side of that coin, I figure I'm a well adjusted individual, who is somewhat attractive (feel free to correct me and tell me I'm gorgeous), smart, educated well, sweet, caring, fun, and not criminally insane, and I've pondered and lurked to see whats out there in the world of online dating, so couldn't the people I'm looking at be the same.
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